seriously. i just really fucking hate the internet sometimes.
i try so hard not to judge like 97% of the time.
but fuck. i can’t stand his fucking fans right now.
god. just stop.
and i love that bitching at me because i’m not losing my shit is the way to go.
grow up. just stop. it’s embarrassing.
It’s really disconcerting that a group of individuals such as yourselves, who purport to be fans of someone and support them, have, at some point, decided that it’s okay to judge the rest of us for what we do and do not get excited about. It makes me so fucking sad because you know what? I was excited to join the Street Team last summer. Excited to be with people who love Darren like I do.
But then I felt so judged by each of you, the ones “in charge”, each time I’ve met you. Because apparently I’m “too much of a fan” or a “stalker” or a “fangirl” when clearly none of you would stoop to these levels of immaturity…like getting excited about seeing Darren at a Knicks game.
Do I think that people should stalk him? No. Hell, when I saw him in NY and ran to walk on the other side of the street I didn’t fucking hound him or bother him. I just observed him and smiled.
Am I excited that he’s at the Knicks game, front and center, because of where he’s gone to in terms of his stardom? Yes. So much yes. Am I flailing? No. Am I judging the flailers? No.
But I have seen you all:
Laugh at other fans for how they choose to proclaim their joy at being a fan.
Mock others for how they choose to proclaim their joy at being a fan.
Tear down other fans for how they choose to be a fan.
Yet make yourselves blatantly obvious at functions where said individuals will be and then whine when you don’t get your way.
I am so fucking done with this bullshit. It’s not your job to belittle and break people when they are excited to see someone with whom they either a.) identify or b.) feel connected to. Why is it your job to police this fandom and shame them when they react differently than you do? It hurts. A lot. And you know what? Life is too damned short for that.
This is coming from a 32-year-old woman who loves and gets excited with all her heart about a lil’ guy from San Fran who has a heart of gold.
Okay I’m heading to my parents’ house for the rest of the weekend, and I’m not taking my laptop because I don’t feel like packing it up along with all of my schoolwork, so I probably won’t be on the internet very often unless it’s from my phone or my parents’ dinosaur of a computer.
But I will be seeing a ballet! And probably reading most of A Clash of Kings (and maybe To Kill A Mockingbird for school >_>)! And writing in a notebook!
i’ve made it a ~lenten goal~ to leave anon love in the ask boxes of people i don’t like/have blacklisted because at the end of the day they’re just people and having grudges is exhausting. idk. yay for being bigger people i guess /o/
i almost never read fic by authors i don’t like (personally, i mean). i spend the whole time either being excessively critical or being annoyed if it’s good, which ruins my enjoyment either way, lol. *most mature*
No that was my exact attitude, lol. I was like “Goddamit, they’re a poopyhead but this is enjoyable. >:|”
It’s been a really…idk if ‘humbling’ is the right word, but I’m going to go with it…experience over the past month or so, because there is an author in the fandom that I genuinely just do not like as a person for various reasons including both their fics and their personality, but I don’t ever really talk about them. I just stay quiet and blacklist and block and all those various things so I don’t get drawn into wank or arguments.
But I decided to read two fics they’ve written recently because the concepts and plots appealed to me, and I really enjoyed them. I don’t know if they’ve just changed as an author or if going into the situation with a fresh and interested mind helped, or whatever. But it’s caused me to reevaluate how I approach fandom and automatically just write people off based on a few points or instances, especially when it comes to a blanket dislike of authors and their fics based on one or two select pieces of writing or how they interact with fandom. And maybe I’ll give that person another ~try and see if I’ve gotten over being a snotty brat, which in retrospect is probably how I behaved and is not an admirable quality.
“I want to live in a world where little girls are not pinkified, but where little girls who like pink are not punished for it, either. We can certainly talk about the social pressures surrounding gender roles, and the concerns that people have when they see girls and young women who appear to be forced into performances of femininity by the society around them, but let’s stop acting like they have no agency and free will. Let’s stop acting like women who choose to be feminine are somehow colluders, betraying the movement, bamboozled into thinking that they want to be feminine. Let’s stop denying women their own autonomy by telling them that their expressions of femininity are bad and wrong.
Antifemininity is misogynist. What you are saying when you engage in this type of rhetoric is that you think things traditionally associated with women are wrong. Which is misogynist. By telling feminine women that they don’t belong in the feminist movement, you are reinforcing the idea that to be feminine and a woman is wrong, that women who want to be taken seriously need to be more masculine, because most people view gender presentation in binary ways. This rewards the ‘one of the boys’ type rhetoric I encounter all over the place from self-avowed feminists who seem to think that bashing on women is a good way to prove how serious they are when it comes to caring about women and bringing men into the feminist movement.”— Get Your Anti-Femininity Out Of My Feminism by s.e. smith (via nerdiestofbears)
Spoilers: S3, through Heart Warnings: Sexual Content Word Count: 2,028 Summary: He and Blaine are sneaky and make due with what little private time they can steal. Unlike ninjas, Kurt and Blaine haven’t mastered the art of acting calm after Finn Hudson almost walks in after Kurt gives Blaine a blowjob. Author’s Notes: Thank you to Dahlstrom for the read-through and kind assistance. ♥
After, Blaine’s cheeks are flushed red, his bottom lip drawn tight between his teeth to keep from being too loud.